Conversing 101

I am a very outgoing person. My friends always keep asking me, "Diti, how are you able to communicate with all kinds of people?" Honestly, most of the times I don't have an answer. However, after analyzing this topic I've come up with six teeny-tiny points to start a conversation with anyone of any age.

1) Make the first move

Have you ever had an experience where you wait for a person to start talking but they never do? Well, take the initiative. Sometimes people are too shy to start talking. You gotta be the bigger person! Take a deep breath and start talking. 

2) Ask questions

The easiest way to get a person to start talking is by asking questions. Ask them about their hobbies, interests, likes and dislikes, fears, favourite movies and books, food preferences, which clubs they are a part of, or if they do any part-time jobs. There's just one thing to be taken care of. Make sure that they are comfortable answering the questions; that's the key!

3) Talk about their interests

If you ask someone to talk about things they like, it will get them talking, even the introvertist of introverts (that phrase is just funny)! 

Consider this. You are a diehard fan of Leonardo DiCaprio. If someone starts talking to you about him, you're going to be an enthusiastic conversationalist. So, you gotta do the same to them!

4) Crack jokes

If you like joking around, now's the time! Crack funny jokes; make the the other person laugh. It will create a bond. Now, cracking jokes come with two precautions. The first would be - Don't crack lame jokes. Lame jokes are loved by many people like you and me, but you never know what the other person might think. Another thing to keep in mind is not to offend the other person. That would easily blow all your efforts.

Joke about regular everyday stuff, there's no harm in it. Maybe school, homework, gadgets, celebrities and what-not. Get that creative mind of yours to work!

In case you don't crack jokes, no worries! There are enough tricks for you to catch on.

5) Talk about yourself

No, I don't mean that you act self-obsessed. Many a time, I keep on asking the other person questions, but they don't ask anything back. So, what I do is, I talk about myself. For example:

Me - "What is your favourite sport?"

Them - "Football"

*awkward silence*

Me - "That's nice. Mine is swimming."

The key is to break that awkward silence. That's how you'll be able to communicate with them. It gets really odd if no one breaks the silence. So, you have to be the bold one and just go with the flow.

6) Smile :)

The most easiest guideline ever! Stretch your smile bones and let the other person know that you are an easy person to talk to. Honestly, I feel that this is the only way to make yourself charismatic. Makeup, perfume/cologne, gel, branded clothes or any such accessory won't be able to help you in this matter. Just show that billion-dollar smile and voila, you're done!

Well, these were the six little points which I generally do when I start a conversation with someone. My secret tip (as you all must have figured out till now) is to make even the shyest of people comfortable to talk to you.

Feel free to add more points in the comment section that you do which help you to start a conversation with someone.

Toodles✨